Post #30

Coping Skills (please share)

Introduction:  I believe that healthy coping skills, in general, should be implemented in the school curriculum more rigorously, as well as taught at home.  I wanted to work on myself (with the help of medical professionals), because I know that I have issues to deal with at times, so I might as well lead a healthy lifestyle in order to counterbalance the negativity.

  1. Write down accomplishments at the end of the day (could be just three things).
  2. Make to-do lists, and keep a calendar that you can write on regularly. Include on the calendar not only what you want/need to accomplish production-wise, but also fun activities that you enjoy.
  3. Identify leisure activities that you want to do.  These could be visiting a park, going to a movie, flying a kite, working on art, playing a card game, having a cup of tea or coffee, etc.  If you need to, look up “healthy leisure activities” on the internet for ideas.  Make a list of ones that you like or are interested in trying, and incorporate these every week on your calendar.
  4. Take personality inventory tests to learn more about your strengths and preferences.  Self-care is individual, and everyone is different. For instance, you might feel energized after alone time. That’s okay!
  5. Be direct with people, within reason.
  6. Set boundaries for yourself, because other people won’t do it for you.
  7. Meditate for 10-30 minutes several times a week.  This could be doing mindfulness and deep breath control wherever you are.  Please read my page on this blog, labeled YOU. Meditate (, and check out the book Wherever You Go There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn for guidance.
  8. Exercise three times weekly (doesn’t have to be rigorous).
  9. Drink plenty of water.
  10. Eat regular meals that are somewhat filling and nutritious (try to have greens like spinach leaves at least once a day).
  11. Write about what bothers you (and rip it up afterwards). Writing is known to release tension and aid your mental well-being, overall.  Some studies have indicated that this helps psychologically more than typing.
  12. Gauge how much sleep you need and get that amount. This could be between 7 and 9 hours. Don’t under nor over sleep.  Your body will be playing catch up the rest of the day; getting 6 hours of sleep is edging towards the equivalent of having several glasses of wine in the system.  On this note, drinking not only strips the body of its natural process of nutrient intake, but disrupts valuable sleep patterns.
  13. Figure out your peak times of productivity. This can change during different times in your life.  Once you know yours, you can schedule production time around it, and allow yourself leeway when you might not feel as “with it.”
  14. Get regular check-ups from doctors (at least once per year-if relatively healthy), and schedule therapy if need be.  Otherwise, make yourself aware of support groups in the community that you can turn to, whether they include a book club, church group, sobriety meeting, or volunteer organization (helping helps yourself).
  15. The FDA doesn’t regulate drugs and vitamins as well as they should. Good options slip through the cracks, and drugs that aren’t useful to the body are put out on the market with minimal knowledge of side effects or real benefits. Be aware of allergies, consult your doctor about what might be most beneficial to you, do research online, and get most of your vitamins by ingesting them via your food.  Your body metabolizes the energy/nutrition much better that way.  For example, Rosemary holds a lot of Vitamin B, which boosts the mood, and instantly can make you feel better.  [if you have a lung condition, be careful about eating too much of it, because it can cause fluid build-up].
  16. Create a vision board. Cut out images from a magazine, glue them onto paper, write and doodle on it, etc. Studies have indicated that what you visualize often comes true/manifests itself in reality.
  17.  If you can, learn yoga stretches.  Stretching, in general, can be quite grounding.
  18. Repeat to yourself, “I can’t control others.  I can only control myself.”
  19. Listen to classical, ambient, and uplifting music. Watch movies with happy endings, and surround yourself with positive people.  You can’t afford to be co-dependent with negative individuals.  Love is beautiful, and has no intention of making you feel otherwise.
  20. Remember, you deserve to be happy! If you think you are worthy of love, others will respond in kind (sometimes you have to fake it before you make it, i.e. practice smiling even if you feel sad).
  21. List good qualities about yourself. We were all created differently so that we could pick up where someone else left off. You can learn to manage your weaknesses and find people to complement them.  However, spend most of your time celebrating who you are, for all of your positive traits!
  22. Try not to compare yourself to others. This won’t solve much, and only weaken your self-esteem. In the same token, don’t compare loved ones to other people.  This will have the same negative effect.  God created all of us perfectly.  Be grateful to God for what you have in life and for all of the diversity in the world.
  23. Don’t become vindictive to yourself, nor others. You’re only closing off great opportunities, which will happen down the road. Just give it time.
  24. Remember that it’s okay to be hurt and to be sensitive. This shows that you are intelligent and that you care.
  25. Stay away from alcohol and drugs (if you can do them in moderation, okay, but only sparingly). They only confuse you, and thwart you from your predestined location.
  26. Take baby steps in life. You can’t run a marathon without training first, right? Also, it’s true that slow and steady wins the race.  In this case, the goal is to attain a happy and healthy mode of life for yourself.
  27. It’s okay to be afraid in life. However, don’t fear that you will continue to grow, and have opportunities to love yourself and others along the way. You might even be loved back!
  28. The fear we create in our minds is often far worse than what is happening in reality.  Confront your fears, and take healthy risks in order to face them.
  29. Make a list of supportive people in your life. You can even make a note next to each name how each person is supportive to you. Have his/her contact information readily available.
  30. Make list of the reasons why you want to be healthy. Keep this list where you can view it easily. Post it on your fridge, for example.
  31. Mindfully eat, mindfully walk, mindfully read, etc. Practice mindfulness in your normal every-day routine.
  32. Write a gratitude list. Note what you’re grateful for in life. Keep this around so that you can look at it when you’re feeling down. You can always add to it (for more ideas like this, please go to:
  33. Eliminate dysfunctional beliefs; for example, “the more that I deny myself, the better off I’ll be.”  You are the most important person in your life.  Surround yourself with positive people, who encourage you to be healthy, which reiterates this sentiment.  Don’t be masochistic, nor abusive to yourself.  We’ve already had spiritual martyrs throughout history.  Unless you want to be one, don’t think like one.
  34. Eat as many organic foods as possible. Preservatives and pesticides can zap your energy, not to mention make you more susceptible to cancers.
  35. Repeat these words to yourself: “I matter, no matter what anyone says. I do!
  36. If your inner thoughts about yourself are messages that you wouldn’t want to say to a friend/loved one, don’t think them about yourself.
  37. Be honest with yourself, and others. Honesty can be hard at times to practice, but beneficial in the long run. It helps to open up neural pathways much faster than lies, which only trap you. Honesty is like fresh air, opening your mind and your heart.  Also, keep people around you who are honest, but kind and direct.
  38. Don’t waste your time on trying to get someone else’s approval or hoping that someone will change. You can only change yourself, and make yourself happy. When others make you happy, it’s a blessing.
  39. Keep yourself inspired by doing healthy activities that you enjoy. This cultivates good self-esteem, and makes you stronger. Believe in you.
  40. Think of psychological tips to share with others.  We all have latent therapists inside of us, as well as creativity. What would you recommend for yourself, and others to try?  What do you diagnose for yourself that’s healthy?  Have fun with it!

Addendum:  Remember, don’t be afraid to seek help if you need to, because that takes courage; if you don’t have a sense of self-acceptance, what do you have?  Protection will come your way, no matter what.  If one person doesn’t listen to you, someone else will.  Also, keep in mind that there will always be someone out there willing to love you for who you are.

Thank you for reading.

Love, Heather

For more tips, please view more from my “Healing” category.

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Published by: rhythmoftime

I love to write, cook, and take photos. As an INFP personality type, I truly care about others and my values. I'm a fraternal twin, have two older brothers, and I served in AmeriCorps. I love my family and my boyfriend. They rock! For years, I collaborated online with Stuart Armitage (UK). Our band, The Lyre Effect, released several albums, though we never met in person. Additionally, I've written a novel, novella, poetry book, and children's book series. Being into the visual arts from a young age, I've had my artwork featured in several gallery exhibits, enjoyed providing assistance on music video sets, as well as acted in and co-directed a few short films. Playing piano and singing are also passions of mine (wrote my first song and poem when I was 9 years old). Currently, I'm part of the writing group, Lead Us Ink, and published my first poetry book in 2015. In this technological age, I think it's important to share the written word, something that will always be sacred and personal. I hope this blog will help me to connect more with others, and I look forward to networking with readers like you. I want to find out about new music, interesting articles, and artwork. So, please, reach out to me. I might even have some good suggestions for you. Take care, and happy reading!

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